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But now we are looking at bodily indicators beyond the hands.

A “cold” person is openly unfriendly, showing it by giving “the cold shoulder,” or an “icy” glance. The truly cool person is so relaxed he doesn’t care whether anybody else thinks he is cool.Ī cool person has self-control, doesn’t “get hot under the collar” or “sweat it” when things don’t go his way.

We’ve extended the word “cool” so it covers all we think praiseworthy, including relaxation. In our era, we can also “look cool”-having nothing to do with the temperature-or we think an event or a phone app is cool. That’s a virtue in every kind of belief system. To stay cool in a crisis, or simply stay or appear unperturbed when life throws rotten tomatoes, requires self-control. Shakespeare mentioned “cool” emotions, such as patience, contrasting them with “hot” emotions such as rage or jealousy. It’s all in the way we use and style the word “cool.” It’s been used in English for centuries. Then why does “chill out” mean “relax,” the opposite of panicking? We are acknowledging that they might not be emotionally “cold,” but rather be emotionally warm and friendly. When we say “cold hands, warm heart,” we are cutting the cold-handed person some slack. From playing in the snow to serious circulatory problems, any number of conditions can create cold hands. Maybe the saying “cold hands, warm heart,” is a reminder to be less judgmental about a first impression. We might instinctively recoil from shaking or clasping a cold hand. Those who’ve shared a blanket on a cold night know this well. Cold makes us just a little bit more selfish. Scientists found that colder temperatures make us withdraw into ourselves, physically and psychologically, as a matter of survival. (So make your first date a coffee date, not a date for iced drinks.) It’s easier to open up your heart and be friendly when you are warm. Another study shows that humans associate warmth of all kinds-from a fireplace, or a fleecy coat in winter-with comfort and security. So then, do warm hands mean a cold heart? No. The hands might be sweaty as well as cold. It’s then reasonable to say cold hands are a sign of extreme nervous excitement, positive or panicky. That’s why we say about people who hesitate “they got cold feet” and backed out of a commitment. If you finally are able to touch hands or dance hand-in-hand with someone you have an unbelievable crush on, that might be exciting enough to create a powerful physical response. They are having a fight-or-flight response. Their hearts feel as if they are beating in their throats. The conclusion was that warm hands and a warm heart seemed to go together.īut those warm hands were artificially warm! A secret admirer might have cold hands no matter what he is holding because in truly anxious or excited people, blood circulation naturally withdraws, temporarily, from the extremities.

The students who had held warm coffee liked the description much better than the students who held iced coffee. After holding the coffee, they read a description of a person-a description that was identical for all-and rated how much they thought they would like this person. They didn’t know that was part of the experiment. Yet it’s so popular and common that scientists came up with several ways to test the truth of it.Ī scientific study of college students had them hold either a cup of hot coffee or a cup of iced coffee. A far as old English sayings go, that’s not very old. “Cold hands, warm heart,” sounds like a very old saying or proverb, but the oldest known example of it in print is from a book of sayings published in 1903. I’m cool with that.” We all want to be cool and be around cool people-except when we want to be around “hot” or sexually attractive people. We even say someone is “cool,” in a positive way, when they control or do not show emotion or moods, or are agreeable, as in “Bring vegetarian food. Could this be true? What can you tell about a person from his cold hands? Might he have the hots for you? It’s implying that just because a person doesn’t show his feelings doesn’t mean he doesn’t have any. Is someone with cold hands a secret admirer? That’s what the saying “cold hands, warm heart” means.